Brilliant, Not Broken: You’re Not Too Much, You’re Just Not for Everybody
“You’re too much.”
Too loud. Too emotional. Too intense. Too complicated.
If you’ve ever been labeled in this way as a neurodivergent person, you know the sting of it.
But today, I want to flip that script. Because you are not too much. You’re just not for everybody.
Naming the Weight of Being “Too Much”
Throughout this Brilliant, Not Broken series, we’ve made space to name what the world often ignores:
The myth of laziness and the truth of executive dysfunction
The daily battles of ADHD, anxiety, and overstimulation
The sacredness of rest in a world that shames stillness
Now we’re talking about the emotional weight of being misunderstood. Of being told, directly or indirectly, to shrink yourself to make other people comfortable.
Let me say this plainly: You were not created to fit into boxes you didn’t build. Your feelings are not a flaw.
Your depth is not a weakness. Your emotional honesty, your intuition, your passion, ALL OF IT, is not too much. They’re part of your power.
Friend, you won’t be understood by everyone. If people have made you feel like your softness is a burden or your brilliance is a threat, that says more about their limitations than yours. You don’t have to become smaller to be loved. You don’t have to dilute your truth to be accepted. You are not a problem. You are a person, and the right people will see you, not as “too much,” but as whole. Your fullness, your fire, your frequency’s not for every room. And that’s not rejection. That’s alignment.
Reflection
Where have I been shrinking myself to be more “manageable” for others?
What would it look like to stop apologizing for my fullness?
Who are the people, places, and practices that make me feel safe in my “too-muchness”?
You are brilliant. You are NOT broken. You are enough, JUST as you are.
xo,
Sue
Listen to the episode: Brilliant, Not Broken – Episode 5
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